Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and keeping on top of your stress levels is really important, especially in the lead up to your wedding.
This month’s theme is health and beauty, in that order. Why? Because you can’t be beautiful and glowing on the outside unless you are healthy and happy on the inside! For some of us this will mean setting new goals to eat better, exercise more and take better care of our emotional wellbeing, as well as how we look.
Before you sign up for a new gym membership, or the latest fad diet, consider these five tips to help you achieve your wedding health and beauty goals.
Understand your values
Before you can expect to make any sort of change to your lifestyle, you need to understand your values and the “real” reason behind why you want to make a change. For example, if you decide to join a gym to lose weight in the lead up to your wedding, and you’ve never really valued going to the gym or losing weight before, you may end up spending a heap of money, losing interest after a while and not seeing results. However, if you lead with your values, for example to “live a healthier lifestyle” you may find that you are more motivated to incorporate exercise and healthy eating into each day, without the burden of a specific weight loss goal hanging over you. The bottom line? Eat well, exercise (find the type of exercise you enjoy) and don’t just focus on the goal of losing weight – that’s just a bonus of a healthy lifestyle.
Avoid (or at least be wary of) miracle cures
Unfortunately when confronted with deadlines such as our wedding day, we sometimes fall victim to fads and miracle cures, which are usually equally expensive and disappointing. Chances are, if a program or product promises a result which seems too good to be true, it probably is. Common culprits include weight loss programs, cosmetics and skin care. Make sure you do your research and try before you buy.
Don’t have unrealistic expectations
Nothing causes more stress than placing unrealistic expectations upon yourself, your time and those around you. Even though you’re probably bursting at the seams to say “I do”, pick a date that gives you enough lead time to properly research, organise and make all the necessary arrangements without feeling rushed.
If you’re working full-time, don’t expect to be able to achieve everything on your to do list in a weekend. Plan your time so you can get jobs done, but also leave some extra time up your sleeve in case something goes wrong, or something better to do pops up. Stay committed to your goals and routines, but give yourself a break too.
The same applies when dealing with your suppliers. Make sure you book well in advance and give plenty of notice and information about what you want. Remember, all good things take time.
Just because you’re super excited to be planning your wedding doesn’t mean your partner will share the same level of enthusiasm. If they weren’t interested in fashion or event planning before, chances are they’re not going to be now. Rather than stressing about how much (or little) your partner is involved in planning your wedding, spend time together working on the things they are interested in, such as venues or transport, and leave the rest to discuss with others.
Try and relax. Easier said than done, right? But do try and keep things in perspective. Things can and do go wrong from time to time – that’s life. Be flexible and have a back-up plan. By keeping calm and knowing not everything will always go as planned, you will avoid last-minute freak-outs and sleepless nights (a.k.a. dark circles and breakouts).
Be well prepared
When it comes to wedding day hair and make-up, start planning sooner rather than later. If you are using a hair or make-up stylist for the first time, shop around and book a trial appointment with each one. Once you have selected your hair and make-up stylist, keep having trials until you achieve the look you’re after and then document it with as many selfies as possible! Having multiple trials may cost you a bit more, but you should think of it as a sound investment, because let me tell you, it is every bride’s nightmare to be unhappy with their hair and make-up on the big day.
The brief (instructions you provide to your stylist) is also very important. Start with a collection of images of hair and make-up that you like. Hopefully you will see a theme appear, and once you settle on your favourite look, use this to brief your hair and make-up stylists. Be realistic though, don’t choose styles that don’t match your complexion or hair type/length. Unless you’re really game, don’t go for something that is too far out of the norm for you, as you may not feel comfortable on the day. Leave experimenting for some other time…
Also think about your environment when choosing hair and make-up. Consider an up-do for beach/outdoor weddings where there will be wind to contend with, and go for low-maintenance make-up if you are getting married in the hotter months. If you are considering changing your skin care routine make sure you meet with a consultant and get advice several months before your big day, as you may need time to adjust or recover from side effects.
Most importantly, just be you
Remember, you are beautiful just the way you are. Of course we all want to be looking our best on our wedding day, but don’t forget that he/she loves you, for you.
Emily Shaw, Franke & Co